A Grandparent’s Pearls of Wisdom

O.K. you’ve taken the plunge and will be planning an international sojourn with your beloved grandchildren! You have dreams of creating lasting memories that you will share that will be life changing? Right?

Well … if you follow these guidelines the answer is YES! I can vividly remember year after year my own little Madison would keep asking me, “Granny, when are we going to Paris?” I would have swept her up in my arms and off we would go the moment she asked - but as an international flight attendant I was all too keenly aware of the challenges one faces when traveling with children.
Allow me to share with you some pointers that will aid you in your planning that perfect trip! Remember crew are not babysitters - your grandchildren are your responsibility to keep happy and well behaved!

Age - children should be at least nine years old as I have observed that younger children do not adapt as well to schedule and body rhythm changes. Of course, there are exceptions - but be cognizant of the child’s “normal” time and sleep schedules. Also, remember you are their grandparent and not parent - so even those of us who run marathons, traveling with children can be mentally exhausting

Planning - we’re great planners so this is easy - as long as you include your grandchildren in your planning! This is so important - in fact, giving them little research assignments about the country and culture they will be visiting will create excitement and enthusiasm for their trip. Be sure to include in your itinerary some of the sights that they have expressed an interest in seeing!

Medical - this is an obvious pre-planning priority - knowing any physical challenges for your grandchild; medications (never place in checked baggage) etc. Get advance information regarding medical assistance of your host country as to phone and contact numbers. Generally on a cruise or hotel they will have medical on call personnel that will assist you with any medical need. Also, in addition to bringing the child’s health insurance information, be sure to have a signed permission note from the parents granting you permission to make any medical decisions should the need arise.

Things to Do/Eat - always have trail mix and some snacks to help during those long flights. Be sure your grandchild drinks plenty of water and avoid colas and soft drinks as they are too salty and can cause bloating and discomfort. Also have mind games/puzzles/drawing paper/and most importantly, a journal that they can keep a daily diary of their travels.

Traveling Etiquette

When it comes to traveling, it is very important that you sit your grandchildren down and go over these basic “little rules” for travel. Remember, you are not necessarily the one in charge - the crew members are!
You are merely stating the rules that must be followed! Here are some of the basics:

• Good Grooming - clothing must be worn that are clean and appropriate. In other countries it is important not to offend that culture and in the U.S. our dress oftentimes is too casual. So it is important to be well groomed and to wear comfortable clothes.

• Behavior - when in the terminal and on the plane it is important to use your “quiet whisper” voice so not to disturb other people. Never venture too far away from granny for you could get lost! Have a plan in place however, if you should be separated - explain to them who they could go to for help.

• While on board the aircraft - do not play with the buttons, recline your seat or lower your tray table Be careful to keep you feet down so not to hit the back of the seat of the person in front of you! This can be very disruptive if that person is trying to sleep. Upon take off, you can gently recline your seat and take down your tray table - but not before.

• Prior to take off when the safety video comes on please remain quiet and watch the video.

• When a crew member ask if you wished something to drink, always remember to say thank you. When served your meal, always say thank you! When the crew member is picking up discarded items and meals, be sure to hand them to her carefully. Never give a crew member a dirty glass when she is distributing meals. Only give her “trash” when she is picking up trash.

• If you are sitting by the window or middle seat and have to visit the rest room and your granny is sleeping, carefully try and slowly exit your row. You may have to wake granny and she will be happy to help you get out of your seat.

• Never make jokes about bombs or say that word. That is taken very seriously.

• Brief your grandchild on what one goes through with regards to security (taking off jacket, shoes, etc); appropriate liquids and gels allowed in carry on bags, passport details and immigration procedures to expect. Instill in them the need to be patient and expect lines.

• Be respectful to all those you meet or are sitting around you. Especially when traveling internationally, you will be seeing people who may appear very different than you - it is particularly important to pay them with respect. Never point or look at them when asking questions about them.

• Brief your grandchildren on the importance of going to the bathroom prior to take off and landing. This will prevent discomfort for upon take off or landing there is twenty minutes when everyone must remain buckled and in their seat - no exceptions!

Follow the above guidelines and you should have a wonderful trip with your grandchildren. Most important however, is the need to remain totally flexible. There will be days they will be too tired to cover all those destinations you have marked on your itinerary! Allow jet lag and down time to recoup for children need more time to adjust to time changes.

So relax and keep the spirit and have a wonderful holiday with your grandchildren! Go create those lasting memories! Remember the most important thing is not the destination, but enjoying their time with you!

Diane Diehl